My Words: Contemplative Insights
The Architecture of resonance
Reflections on the Intersection of Leadership, Somatic Frequency, and the Lived Experience of The Somatic Living Compass®
The Power of the Internal Signal
Every life holds data and in sharing these entries, I seek to amplify the signal and provide the somatic clarity required for systemic transformation
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The Architecture Of Stillness
2 min read There is a distinct, sharp exhaustion that belongs entirely to the capable. When your default state is to hold the perimeter, manage the complexity, and navigate the high-stakes transformations of life, you build a formidable capacity for containment. -
The Relieved Sigh Of The System
6 min read A few weekends ago, I was waiting outside a change room for my son, playing the role of the trusted advisor on his clothing choices. In the stall next to him, another story was unfolding. A man emerged in a long-sleeved top and stepped out to show his girlfriend... -
Trusting The Internal Signal
8 min read We are conditioned to value deliberation. In our modern society, we are taught that every move must be pre-calculated, every risk mitigated, and every roadmap locked down months in advance. We treat strategy as an intellectual exercise - a game played entirely from the neck up. -
The Evolution Of Resonance
5 min read I grew up with a very specific, rigid narrative about divorce. It was a worldview built on the idea that if a marriage ended, the individuals involved were fundamentally damaged or somehow "the problem." It was a perspective that prioritised the preservation of a structure... -
The Balance Of Flow
5 min read One of the hardest things in life is knowing when to let go and simply go with the flow. When you must loosen your grip on the outcome(s) and relax, because you’ve done everything that you could have done in and for the situation, and the rest is outside of your control. -
Naming The Work That Has Been Naming Me
4 min read Today has started with an interesting mix of calm, exhaustion and excitement. It was incredibly warm last night and for some, the first weekend after starting the school year. For others, this weekend is the last weekend of the school holidays. -
This Year, I'm All In
3 min read I woke up to a quiet house and the wonderful sound of rain outside my windows. The wind gently moved the leaves in the trees, and a few birds chirped and whistled in the distance. No noisy cicadas. No barking dogs. No screaming kids. No traffic. Just a peaceful sense of ease...
The Archives: A Record of Becoming
2025
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Holding Space
6 min read In the festive season, when everyone is asking for something of us, it's a good time to stop and remember how to hold space without losing yourself. The calendar fills quickly, and the pace can feel relentless, with one gathering tumbling into the next, and each with its own set of expectations. -
The Search For Safety
8 min read For almost the last ten years, I was certain that I was searching for peace. Peace from the noise and chaos of an abusive marriage and the rebuild that followed the separation and divorce. Peace from the bruises you couldn't see - the ones that impacted your nervous system and infiltrated thought patterns... -
Mothering Masculinity: Raising A Real Man
7 min read “Is it easier raising girls or boys?” she asked as we walked along the beach. The question came casually, tossed into conversation. We were three mothers - one with two sons, one with one son, and me, with two daughters and a son. I paused for a moment and then confidently said, "Girls." Not because they're... -
The Slow Unfolding
3 min read We’ve just passed through a blood moon eclipse—a celestial moment that, for some, marks a turning point. Whether or not you follow planetary shifts, there’s something undeniable in the air right now. A quiet rearranging. A slow shedding. A sense that what was misaligned is beginning to fall away... -
The Fitting Room
2 min read I feel like I’ve just spent the last year or more shopping for something that fits and feels right, but never quite finding it. I’m not talking about shopping in the physical sense—I’m referring to the psychological. A search for “self,” but a levelled-up version. And it’s something we’re all continuously doing... -
Reclaiming Daily Paradise
4 min read I think I’m having some holiday withdrawals. No, scrap that. I know that I am. It’s Monday morning and although I arrived home yesterday, giving myself more than enough time to get back into everyday life, after a wonderful long weekend away, I woke up this morning with a feeling like something is missing. -
Allowing The Feminine
5 min read For the first time in, well, I honestly can't remember when, I desperately want to wear a dress. For the first time in a long time, I woke up this morning and I feel the unshakeable urge to embrace the femininity in me, and just be pretty and delicate and all things girly. And that's a pretty big shift in someone who... -
Feels Like Home
4 min read The more people I meet and encounter, the more I'm convinced that there's someone for everyone, and before you disagree (because yes, there are a lot of crazies out there), hear me out. Over the years I've done a lot of work on my self and being comfortable with who I am. -
How You Know It's Right
3 min read In my line of work as a life coach and mentor, I'm often asked the question: How do you know when it's the right decision? And the answer is insanely simple: You'll feel it in your soul, in your very being. You can't hide or contain energy that aligns with who you are. -
It's Different Now
4 min read
I couldn't tell you exactly what has changed or why I've had this sudden urge and propulsion forward - maybe it's the fact that I've had a fever for the past four days and have had nothing to do but think, albeit somewhat delirious thoughts, or maybe it's the pink moon that just happened this weekend...
2024
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Thoughts vs Reality
4 min read The mind is amazing. It allows us the ability to have thoughts, to ingest and assess the incoming information and give us choices in how we could respond, and to dream, imagine and "walk" our way through possibilities of events that haven't happened yet. It processes a vast amount of information to control... -
The Flow Of Change
5 min read I've been a little absent from here but it's not because I haven't had anything to think or write about. It's the exact opposite actually. I've had so many things going on that I haven't had a full moment to stop and write... at least not one when I've not been completely exhausted. -
Joy From The Little Things
4 min read As kids grow up, there seems to be an age when giving out stickers or stamps for doing a great job, stops. I’m sure we all remember getting them in kindergarten and the few years that followed, on everything from our homework to our exams, and sometimes even just as a reward for doing a task really well. -
Acknowledging The Ugly Truth
4 min read We've just ticked over into July and a handful of new laws and rules, have come into affect and there's one in particular that I'm really happy about: Coercive control is now a criminal offence in NSW. Coercive control is a form of domestic violence and I'm glad it's being recognised and acknowledged... -
It's Not Easy
4 min read Being a single parent isn't something that I planned and it's not an easy role to take on. There are days when I'm at the end of my tether and then there are days when I'm feeling positive and great about the present and future. To say it's a rollercoaster ride is an understatement. And I know that every single parent... -
The Right Tools
4 min read I recently rediscovered something that I had forgotten that I loved, because over the years it became too cumbersome, time consuming and frustrating, that I lost motivation to even consider it. And the fix was so simple: Having the right tools. You might be wondering what I'm ranting on about this time, so let me explain. -
Regaining Focus
5 min read Today, my thoughts are scattered. My mind is everywhere and nowhere all at once. I'm fidgety but not anxious. I have things to do but no focus and I've already bounced between so many tasks this morning and it's just past 9.30am. The fact that I'm sipping on a second coffee for the morning probably isn't... -
Love Should Be Consistent
3 min read I'm a rebel at heart. Tell me that I must do something and it ignites a fire inside me to do the exact opposite. Ask me to do something and I'll consider it - although the outcome will usually depend on how I've been asked and whether or not I feel like it (amongst other things). So when it comes to calendar... -
Small Steps
3 min read I must admit that I'm having what feels like a slow start to the new year. I'm enjoying the longer summer days and evenings, despite the weather sometimes being abnormally hot for days (and nights) on end. I've been quite happy spending my days enjoying the company of myself and my kids, and on most...
2023
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December Already?
3 min read It's the time of year when we all stop and take the time to look back on the year that was, and in many cases, wonder where the time went; When we reflect on what was, what could have been, and perhaps what we could have done differently... and the time of year when we start making promises... -
I'm Angry
3 min read I'm angry. I'm angry at myself for giving. I'm angry at others for always expecting and in some cases demanding. I'm angry at those that take advantage of others. I'm angry at those who feel entitled and walk around treating everyone else like crap. -
Everyday Gratitude
3 min read Sometimes it's about breaking things down to the simplistic level, so that we can see and appreciate what's right in front of us, and happening to us in the "now". I had a wonderful conversation this morning with my kids, as I drove them to school. It started with a question asked about why some... -
Family Matters
3 min read Family. We all have them and in various "formats". Some are big, some are small. Some are close, some are not. Some are known, whilst others aren't. Usually it's a mix of everything and in theory, they should be part of the foundation of who you are and the people that have your back. But we all know that this isn't... -
Unwelcome Opinions
3 min read Since when was it okay to give out backhanded compliments? You know, the ones where you're actually insulting the person by way of your opinion of them, but you tack that part to the second half of the sentence rather than lead with it. It's just plain rude and unwelcome. -
Don't Tell Me How To Feel
3 min read Emotions are very personal. It's an extension of what you feel and it's mixed in with what you're thinking and experiencing. There is no right or wrong. And yet there are people out there, who feel it's their duty, to tell you how to feel, and sometimes even how to act or respond. -
Trying Situations
4 min read Why is it that the trying situations, the ones that test our character, are the ones that really show others (and ourselves) who we really are? Why does it have to take those extreme situations to enable our true nature and intentions to become clear and visible to all? Why can't we always just be... -
Tomorrow Will Be Okay
4 min read And just like that, my work break over the holiday period is over, and the start of my first work week for this year looms before me… and I can’t help but feel a little bit disappointed about all the things that I didn’t get around to doing during my time off. At the same time, I’m also happy with what I did...
2022
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Guided Learning
7 min read There's something exhilarating and empowering about being able to do something that you didn't think you could. And in those moments where doubt takes the front seat, it's great to have a team of supporters genuinely cheering you on. It's even better if you have someone who's done it before, to guide... -
Increased Momentum
3 min read We're into the second half of the year and it feels like things have gone from a trickle to a bit of a gush of energy and movement. Activity seems to have picked up with businesses and with people in general. It's almost like the majority have woken up and gone "oh bugger" as soon as they realise that more than half... -
Just Childlike
3 min read Call me completely insane, but I genuinely love and enjoy the school holidays; And I am aware that almost all parents reading this would have just thrown their hands up and called me crazy, and likely clicked away. But I have my reasons for loving the school holidays. -
Shake It Off
3 min read They say to dance like no-one's watching. But what does that really mean? And why dance? Why not sing? And are you supposed to always do it, or do it just sometimes? Is there a purpose to it all or are you just supposed to let go and be yourself? -
Acknowledging Change
5 min read Have you ever looked back and reflected on how you’ve grown and changed? How you approach situations differently? How perhaps, a situation that comes up now, is handled in a way that you wouldn’t have handled it last week, last month, last year or maybe longer? -
Making Room
3 min read There's something amazingly wonderful about cleaning... really cleaning. Cleaning to the point where you're moving furniture and there's bags of garbage being thrown out. There's something magical cleansing about it and it's probably because we're energetically making room for the new as we say... -
The Real Strength
4 min read I learnt a long time ago that you can never control what other people do but you can control how you react and respond. And there was never any written rule to say that you can't compose yourself before you respond; That you can't stop and take a breath first. I'm not saying to not deal with things that come up... -
Are You Listening?
4 min read Regardless of what you believe in, the universe (or higher power) has a way of leaving signs and dropping hints, continually answering your questions and adjusting circumstances for you. Nothing happens by coincidence. But most of us are too busy to notice the whispers. -
Allowing A Non-Programmed Response
3 min read No matter how much I've worked on it or how aware of it I am, there's just one programmed response that I can't seem to shake off completely: Feeling guilty for taking time out. Feeling guilty for taking time for me. It's shifted a bit, but not as much as I'd like. -
It's Going To Be Different
3 min read I don't want 2022 to be the same as the years gone past. I want change. I'm ready for it. I want to be okay with things going slowly. I want to savour each moment. I want the time to celebrate all the little things and to be okay with all the unknowns. I want it to be different to how it was. -
Shoutout To The New
4 min read I want to take a moment to reflect on the last few months - those months when I wasn't writing here, but immersing myself in new experiences and meeting new people. It's amazing what happens when a lockdown ends. Let's start with November...
2021
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I Have A Confession
7 min read I have a confession to make. It’s about what really happens after you leave a long-term relationship. Specifically, for me, it’s about what happens when you leave a marriage and there are children involved. Apart from the endless months of self-torment that you go through... -
Another Year Nearly Gone
3 min read As the end of the year draws ever closer, are you sitting there wondering what happened to the year? Or are you celebrating everything that you’ve accomplished? I can’t help but think that as a society, we needed to have time alone with ourselves for a little while, in addition to the time in isolation... -
Behind The Smile
4 min read Some days I just want to give up. I want to stop dreaming, stop hoping, stop believing. Some days I’m too exhausted to take the next step towards my dreams because I feel like I’m swimming in mud, and it’s up to my neck. Some days it feels like it’s going to take too much effort to move... -
The Ebb And Flow
5 min read I’ve never been one to chase friendships. I understand that they come and go, and whilst I cherish the ones that I do have, I don’t fret over the ones that have naturally ended themselves; The ones that were, once upon a time, flourishing, and then, for one reason or another, fizzled out as you both... -
Something's Gotta Give
10 min read Where’s the media coverage on the actual impact that all these lockdowns and restrictions have on mental health? I’m not asking this to discount the actual virus – I’m asking because it seems to be the silent killer that no one wants to discuss, but it needs to be. -
Honesty And Kindness
5 min read What has happened to humanity? I'd say that it seems like we're acting like animals, but even animals act better than this. I'm specifically referring to honesty and kindness. I'm wondering if we're all so used to being in our own little bubble, that we've forgotten how to act and behave... -
Mental Health During Lockdown
5 min read I feel like a broken record, talking about the same thing, but mental health during lockdown is something that really needs more attention, because honestly, not everyone is coping. Some people feel like there's no end, no relief, in sight. -
Working Around Roadblocks
4 min read So we're back in lockdown again. It started just as the school holidays were about to start and is currently expected to go until the end of this month, which would make it five weeks in total. Not ideal right? It's meant a cancellation to the holiday plans I had with the kids and time off work with nowhere to go. -
In Between Worlds
3 min read I am in between worlds and I don’t like it. I’m not comfortable because I’m neither here nor there, and I can’t seem to get unstuck. It’s like I’m on my journey, I’m walking forward towards my end goal and I’m so close that I can see it and almost touch it, but I’ve hit a patch of ground that feels like mud. -
Recognising Your Own Change
3 min read I find it quite fascinating how we can recognise change and growth in others, yet we seem to overlook how much we change and grow ourselves. Is it because we’re busy with getting on with life? Busy with putting one foot in front of the other? Or that we’re so used to seeing that face in the mirror every day... -
Beyond Face Value
3 min read I raised my children to accept everyone as an individual and to not try to categorise or pigeon-hole anyone. I raised my children to see beyond the physical and to connect with the person underneath. I raised my children to understand that everyone has a background story... -
Peace, Love And Forgiveness
4 min read Let’s face it. Some people are extremely hard to forgive and really have a knack for disrupting your sense of peace. Why? Probably because we’re human and some people and/or situations, really get under our skin. I’m going to guess that it’ll be different for everyone, and I’d be tempted to call you a liar if... -
A Perspective On Frustration
3 min read Have you ever found yourself questioning where you are? Wondering why things haven’t unfolded the way that you’ve planned, even after you’ve done all the work? Or simply just wondering how much more patience you have to give to a situation, before the tables finally turn in your favour? -
The Self Care Balance
3 min read I have run into an issue with my self-care routine. Let me preface it by saying that my self-care routine is still relatively new in comparison to how I used to be, so maybe this would be classed as teething problems, but it’s something that I want to resolve asap.
2020
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The Daily Cycle
5 min read Okay – it’s time for me to stop and take a few breaths. It doesn’t happen often these days, but this evening, I’m stressed. I’ve had an overly full and busy day at work, have dealt with home related issues, have just come back from squeezing in an errand run, and now have dinner simmering on the stove. -
There's Two Sides To Everything
5 min read Just like there’s darkness for the light, there’s two sides of every situation, and it feels like I’ve been tested to see the lighter side this week. It’s been one thing after another, and whilst I might be slightly annoyed, I’m still smiling. In fact, I’m pretty sure I’ve caught myself laughing about some of the crazy things... -
Simple Gratitude
3 min read In a world where we’re always looking for the next thing to do, to have, to experience, to obtain… I’m overcome with gratitude for what I have today, right in this moment. In this time in history where things aren’t as ideal as we’d like, I think it’s important for each and every one of us to stop for a moment... -
Life Really Is What You Make It
5 min read Birthday season in my family has just kicked off and having my eldest ask me about what was happening around the time of her birth, has made me stop and take a look back on my life so far… and what a wild ride it’s been. I sometimes feel like I’ve had more than my fair share of ups and downs... -
Domestic Violence Isn't Just About Being Hit
8 min read I’ve just read something in the news this morning, that has made my gut churn. I knew it would happen, but it’s still making me feel physically ill because I’ve been in the position of so many of those people that the news report was referring to. The article was on the exponential rise of domestic violence... -
Your Name Is Your Identity
4 min read I never put much thought into the weight or meaning of a name, except for maybe when I was choosing a name for each of my children shortly after their birth… but even then, I never thought of a name as more than a part of their identity and a way to address them. Of course there were some names that... -
It Wasn't Love
4 min read It’s said that it’s impossible to remain angry at someone you truly love and that anger lasting more than three days is a fair indicator that you’re either not in love with that person or never were. That thought alone has made me question what I felt for my ex-husband and to question if I was ever really in love... -
The Adventure That Is Life
4 min read I love adventures. I love being able to just choose a direction to start heading in and just going. I love the excitement of not knowing what will be found along the way or at the end. I love letting go of any control and just following my gut… and I find it incredibly amusing that whilst I love going on an adventure... -
Working Remotely And Questioning Priorities
6 min read I’ve really grown accustomed to working from home and I don’t think I’m the only one. It’s not that I don’t like going into the office and being around people, but quite honestly, I get so much more work done at home because I’m not stopping for side conversations, which is both good and bad. -
No More Asking Why
5 min read I’m a problem solver. It’s what I do every day and I’m really good at finding the real issues and then coming up with ways to solve (or resolve) them. I do it at work as part of my (day) job and I do it at home with my children. I’ll ask a thousand “why’s” until I get to the real issue. -
I Can Feel It
5 min read Imagine, just for a moment, what it would be like to actually feel someone else’s emotions. Not just the good ones, but the not-so-nice ones too. Have you done that? Okay. Now imagine, what it would be like if you couldn’t hide your emotions from someone, because no matter how hard you tried... -
An Exhausted Mind
4 min read My mind has been so busy lately that I don’t even know how to start this post or what topic to stick to, so I’m just going to let it all flow out. These last few weeks for me have been hectic to say the least. Have I been coping? Somewhat. Do I know that it’s just another cycle and that things will get better? Definitely. -
Triggers
4 min read We all have things that trigger us, usually negatively, and I thought that I had dealt with all of mine. I thought that I knew all of them and the emotional responses that I automatically fight back with. I thought that I had learnt how to handle all the curly tests that life could throw my way. -
Transitioning Back Into Society
7 min read As lockdown conditions start to ease, we, as a society and as individuals, face another problem: Transitioning back into society. For those of us who have been totally isolated, this is a very real fear and concern. For others who may have had some external contact, it’s still the fear of how things will be... -
Standing Tall And True
5 min read I once had someone tell me that most people can’t handle them. That it takes a particular type of person to match their intensity and passion, and be able to react or respond accordingly. That person told me that most can’t rise up to the challenge, even though they initially think they can or they want to try. -
Nurturing Relationships Today For Tomorrow
5 min read So… I have a teenage daughter. (She’s my eldest.) We have a great relationship… rare, I know. We talk about everything… well, everything within reason, and I get a regular de-brief of what goes on in her day and in her head. Last week, the “sex talk” happened. It’s probably a conversation that I, like the majority... -
Loving All Of Me
4 min read I could never ask or expect anyone (outside of my flesh and blood family) to love me, without me first loving myself. And I’m not talking on the superficial level. I’m talking about the whole “warts and all” level. I still have a lot of scars from my marriage. Some are mental, some are emotional, and some are physical. -
Feeling The (Positive) Change
5 min read It’s still early on Sunday morning as I write this, but I’ve already been up for hours. As someone who is sensitive to energy and especially changes in energy, I was woken up at 4.01am, which was a minute after the Together At Home global live event started. So really, not surprising that I was woken up... -
It's Okay To Ask For Help
4 min read As uncertainty about tomorrow continues, I’m here to remind you to reach out if you feel or find yourself not coping. To stop and take a break if it’s all too much. And to keep expectations of yourself and others, at a reasonable level. Be patient and kind on yourself. -
A State Of Change
5 min read There’s no doubt that we’re in a state of change and it’s something that’s happening on a global level. We’re in stage two lockdown here now and these new restrictions have shaken some people up enough for them to start adhering to the social distancing rules, especially now that gyms are closed and cafés... -
Worrying Never Changed A Thing
4 min read They say that you can tell a lot about a person in times of heightened stress, and how they react to it and handle it in general. The current global pandemic is probably the most perfect example that I can think of and it’s something at the forefront of everyone’s mind. -
Lesson Learnt: Be True To You
8 min read Something happened the other day that made me wonder why I bothered. Why I didn’t recognise the situation for what it was and why I didn’t just act accordingly? Why didn’t I just stay true to myself and follow my base instincts? You know the kind of situation that I’m talking about: Those ones where... -
New Dad Request
9 min read So here’s something that I knew would come up sooner or later, and I guess it came up sooner than expected, and it was probably triggered by the fact that Valentine’s day is just around the corner. What am I referring to? I’m talking about a partner for me, but more importantly for the kids, a “new dad”. -
Time For Reflection
9 min read I’ve been in hermit mode since the start of this year. Well, not in complete hermit mode. I’ve been working, but I’ve spent my non-working hours in my own head, for me. I needed the time out for myself, as I reflected back on the year and decade that was, and set my intentions for the new year (and decade). -
Sometimes We Need To Trust And Let Go
3 min read Sometimes we need to trust and let go. Sometimes we need to just believe in ourselves, our abilities and the universe. Divine timing and all that… Letting go of control and fear and just trust that everything will work out, especially if you’ve done everything that you can possibly do and there is just no more...
2019
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New Year Resolutions Or New Resolutions Every Day
8 min read I’ve been in my head a lot lately, hence the lack in posts. I’ve been doing the regular annual reflection on what’s happened throughout this past year, especially as we move closer to the end of not just a year, but a decade. And all of these thoughts led me to question a norm: Why wait until the end of a year... -
It's Your Choice To Be Beautiful
7 min read They say that beauty is only skin deep. But I’m going to challenge that. I say beauty, real beauty, is much deeper. Real beauty resides in your soul – your very being. And that type of real beauty, always shines through. Real beauty radiates from a person. Real beauty is captivating and mesmerising. -
My Own Form Of Therapy
5 min read I just finished cleaning through my kitchen spices drawer. I replaced every single jar with new ones, hand wrote out the labels, stuck them on and arranged them in the drawer. It was one massive cleaning ritual and I feel so good after doing it. It was therapeutic. -
Everything Stems From Love
6 min read When I first heard the phrase “everything stems from love”, my immediate response was: Are you nuts? How could something terrible, stem from love? How can getting up in the morning, stem from love? How can doing chores, stem from love? I mean, I completely understand how the good things in life... -
You Have The Answers Within
6 min read If I only followed the advice of others, I’m sure I’d be sitting in a psych ward with a straitjacket on, or at least rocking back and forth in a small padded room. I’m not saying to not listen or speak with anyone about what’s going on in your life. I’m just saying that you can’t ONLY listen to others. -
Your Normal Isn't My Normal And That's Okay
5 min read I’m a Christmas person. I love everything there is about Christmas. I love the decorations. I love the festivities. I love the finding gifts for those I love – that perfect little gift that is just for them. Last year, I was still a little on edge at Christmas. Last year I was worried about being normal and conforming... -
Fixing Myself And Setting Boundaries
5 min read Somewhere over the years of my marriage, throughout my life, I lost myself. I lost who I really was. I lost my purpose in life. I lost my zest, my dreams, my spirit. Don’t misunderstand me. I lived and I’ve had some amazing experiences throughout my life, but amongst all of the every day living, I lost me... -
Closing A Chapter
9 min read A big chapter to one part of my life will come to a close today. It’s been a long time coming and I’m not just talking about the period of time that has passed since I separated with my husband. I’m talking about the period of time where my head and heart had checked out of the relationship.